Single Men

Who, when, what, where, why, ...
Single men go to bars.  All single men.  Successful, not successful, the only thing that changes is which bar.  Get it down into your head, the ONLY reason they go is because of the women, even if it's that dive bar around there corner where there never are any women, there's always the chance there will be one. 

Just like women.  They don't go to dance or hang out with their friends, they go to posture and be lusted, to lust themselves, to compete for men's attention, or to meet a man.  Funny how that's last on the list.    Well men go to get lucky, else meet a woman, else talk to a woman, else see a woman, else get away from seeing the woman at home.  Never to "see the band", "hang with friends", "watch the game", "grab a bite", or to "get a beer".  Those are all excuses.  There's only one reason, that's why they go.   Go to a club, a hotel bar, sports bar, or meat-market.  If a man is in a bar, that's why he's there.  And if he's there with a women, he's there so he can show her off, look at the other women, and look at the one he's with if she's hot, it's probably the only place where she will dress hot.  Or he's there because he used to always go when he was single and he's a creature of habit.  After all, what else is there to do after 11pm besides watch TV?  Nothing.  As far as "I" know, I'm a single man, I'd go to a bar or just stay home.  Where sooner or later, it's SOMETHING to do with women.  Whether it's watch them on TV, bash them with friends, chat or seek them on the Internet, or even call one on the phone, ...  That's what single men do.  And they masturbate a lot.  Married men do to, but they have to find a secure location.  What, you think married men are generally happy?  Not.  After year 1, complacent is about the best on average.  There are exceptions, but as they used to say to me, "When are you getting married.  What gives YOU the right to be happy."

My advice is, say how it is, how it's going to be, else "Next!".  If she's going to be trouble, you don't want her, cut your losses while you don't have any.  Don't be afraid to say your thing because then she might get mad or not like you.  News.  She's going to not like you more for always being such a pushover and you're going to be the man looking for a place to masturbate in private while she gets less attractive to go along with the personality.  Nothing will shape her up until she's out single again either once you've got that push-me-around her-way-or-I'll-be-mad thing going on.

Back to locating single men.  Why not become an escort?   Put up a website.  All the best men will come to you, you can safely turn them all down with the keyboard until you get one you like, charge him money, and if he's a keeper and likes you, he'll fall in love with you anyway and will reward you to be all his.  You don't have to sleep with they guys, they just won't come back. Good.  You don't want them to.  There are a lot of real homely pigs that are doing it, and good looking successful single men often DO pay a homely pig, someone they'd never go out with for free, just because there is no chance of rejection.  That's the truth.

Grocery Store.
I have no clue who came up with that one.  There's a rumor going around amongst the single men too, "Shhh.  The grocery store."  Right.  When men grocery shop, that's what they do.  They don't talk to anybody, they are in and out fast, go at strange times, and every women in the store reminds them why they are single.  The women all look like frumpy mommies.  That's because they are. 

 

Bar.
There's only one good place for women to meet single men.  The bar.  Because that's where every man goes when he is single and wants to meet a woman.  The only thing is deciding which bar, what night of the week, and what time. 

 

Then you have to hit on the guy you want, because most guys are too intimidated with being shot down (or too not intimidated and will ignore your shutdown just to annoy you).  Or at least give him the inviting constant stare/smile/look away thing and after he works up courage and checks with 3 or 4 more of those stare/smile/away combos, he'll move closer, probably to the side so he can observe his prey without being observed.  In the mean time, some guy will come up and say hi and you'll say hi and the stalker will drop back into retreat position in the crowd.  Bars suck. 

All the successful single men I know don't bother with American girls, they head down to Rio de Janeiro or some Cartegena where the women are hot, easy, plentiful, horny, sweet, and ultra competitive. 

The unsuccessful ones are at the golf course.  And the bar.  Helping maintain that 5-1 ratio M-F.  But don't bother because like every woman, their force field goes up when they enter a bar, anything a man says is subject to being taken as a pickup line, he's got nothing to say because he doesn't know you so he can comment on how pretty you are, comment on something you're doing or wearing, and hope for approval but he won't get it.  He's trying to "pick you up" and you are not there to get "picked up" so everybody loses. 

Strip Bars.
Don't rule out strip bars, they get all kinds, especially men with money because a man will drop $100 to $1000 in just a few hours depending on his generosity.  It's not just for the pathetic can't get it any other way, it's also for the time-is-money crowd that would rather stare at beautiful naked women and go home alone than stare at castrating bitches at the other bar and go home alone.  And it's for the high-rollers, total players, the gullible, the once a year guys, and every other type. 

There are rarely single women at a strip bar, immediately you'll be suspected of being a prostitute there to steal the patrons.  Who cares what the management thinks.  The patrons will think you're a prostitute or a lesbian.  Either way, they want you.  The strippers will thing you're a prostitute or a lesbian.  Either way, they want you.  Go with a friend, male or female and change the labeling a bit, but one thing for sure, every guy in there loves woman, has money, and is a cut to the chase kind of guy.  Buy yourself a lap dance, everybody will be watching.  Then go sit up at the bar. 

Of course, nobody is going to do that.  I've met few women of the category that would.  Those are the kind I like.  Even better are the ones that ask for you to take them to one so they can be entertained behind the safety of your presence.

Where else?
That's it.  The bar.  And the golf course, they are almost always married and their is no venue to socialize except with the people you are golfing with, and they probably are annoyed because you don't belong on a golf course.  Or go back and consider the independent escort idea.  But do your homework well, you don't want to jeopardize your safety or get arrested.

Oh, then there's the internet singles sites.  Where you'll run the same risks as an internet escort, but not get paid.   If you really like your date, just tell him you like him and would rather not charge him, or tell him it's your first time!  That's what he's telling you, did you believe him? 

Another Note.
Men are not out specifically for sex, but sex is on the agenda.  Rarely is it the ONLY thing, not even the primary thing.  But if he isn't interested in fucking you, he isn't interested in you at all, and if he has any interest in you at all, that's on the agenda, at least somewhere down the line.  It's on yours too.  You only differ in how soon.  That's what distinguishes a romantic interest from any other interest, that sex is a possibility, at least somewhere down the line.  He's not dating you for your personality, he doesn't know you yet.  Duh!

It cracks me up when I see these singles sites and nobody talks about sex or even one's like Yahoo where you are forbidden to talk about it.  Duh!

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